Finding your way back to joy, spontaneity and aliveness.

What can we explore in a NARM session?

NARM's applications encompass a broad range of challenges, including those related to negative self-image, relational difficulties, and emotional dysregulation. While the list below is not exhaustive, it provides a glimpse into the various aspects we can address in NARM sessions.

Negative self-image

  • Feeling undeserving, unworthy, or inadequate in some ways

  • Struggling with low self-confidence, self-doubt, perfectionism or very high standards

  • Tendencies to overwork or burn yourself out

  • Constantly comparing yourself to others

  • Persistent patterns of self-shame, guilt, or self-blame

  • Difficulty accepting compliments or positive feedback

  • Fear of failure and avoidance of new challenges

  • Associating personal value with external achievements (e.g. money, status, etc.)

  • Feeling inadequate in social situations and avoiding them due to fear of rejection

  • Assuming that others are always evaluating, judging or criticizing you

  • Feeling like a burden to others

  • Experiencing obsessive thoughts about perceived physical appearance flaws

Relational challenges

  • Difficulties in expressing yourself authentically

  • Difficulties in setting healthy boundaries and saying no without guilt or fear

  • Feeling you can't rely on anyone else

  • Feeling disconnected from yourself/others

  • Difficulties in establishing and maintaining stable, fulfilling relationships

  • Difficulties committing to relationships or projects and following through

  • Fear of being vulnerable or opening your heart in relationships

  • Tendency to be overly independent in relationships, hindering the development of intimacy and healthy interdependence

  • Struggling to receive love and care

  • Engaging in patterns of isolation or withdrawal

  • Sacrificing your own needs and desires to avoid conflict or maintain relationships

  • Finding it challenging to trust others and delegate

  • Difficulty in giving and receiving feedback

Self-regulation difficulties

  • Feeling anxious or hypervigilant, always scanning for potential threats around you

  • Sensitivity to external feedback

  • Significant difficulty in tolerating children’s sadness, anger, helplessness or vitality

  • Feeling emotionally overwhelmed in response to seemingly minor stressors

  • Engaging in compulsive / addictive behaviors such as consuming excessive amounts of sugar, substances, porn, etc.

  • Obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviours (cleaning, disinfecting, etc.)

  • Excessive need to control yourself, others or the environment around you

  • Anger outbursts or prolonged irritability

  • Experiencing intense feelings of emptiness or numbness

  • Difficulty in calming down after experiencing heightened emotional states

  • Tendency to dissociate or disconnect from emotions as a coping mechanism

  • Difficulty in living in the present moment, tolerating pleasure, joy, or aliveness

NARM at a glance

  • When therapy focuses on deficiency, pain, and dysfunction, clients become skilled at orienting toward deficiency, pain, and dysfunction. But the reality is that despite the challenges and adversity we all faced in our lives, we survived. So alongside trauma adaptations, we also carry significant resources and capacitiess that we may or may not be aware of.

    NARM is not a goal-oriented approach, but an inquiry-based, depth-oriented, relational model that invites the therapist and the client to bring curiosity to the obstacles that might be preventing them from accessing their spontaneous impulses towards connection, health, and aliveness.

  • In NARM, there's no need for exhaustive 'archaeological digging' into the client’s life's history. What's relevant from the past and we carry forward in the present will naturally surface during our sessions. This approach eliminates the need for lengthy recounts of our entire life story. Instead, we'll embark on a joint curiosity journey, exploring what unfolds moment by moment in the relational field between us.

    In NARM we explore personal history to the degree that patterns from the past interfere with being present and in contact with self and others in the here-and-now.

  • NARM is a non-pathologizing approach, which respects and honors the adaptive strategies we developed in response to attachment, relational or developmental trauma. Rather than focusing on behavioral changes and symptoms' extinction, NARM encourages curiosity about the underlying drivers of our behaviors and the messages that our symptoms may be trying to communicate.

  • Many forms of therapy tend to emphasize and focus on one of these dimensions, which often limits the effectiveness of the process. For example, as helpful as it may be to get a new insight, to rationally understand what's driving a certain reaction and to cognitively reframe a certain belief, that alone is unlikely to enable long term change.

    By working simultaneously bottom-up (i.e. with cognitions and emotions) and top-down (with somatic reactions, the felt sense, and instinctive responses), NARM supports the possibility of deeper, embodied shifts in how we relate to ourselves and others.

  • NARM supports the possibility of reconnecting to who we truly are beyond the learned adaptive behaviors, strategies, and identifications that emerged in response to early life adversities.

    As dr. Laurence Heller -the creator of NARM- beautifully says, ‘no matter how withdrawn and isolated we have become, or how serious the trauma we have experienced, on the deepest level, just as a plant spontaneously moves towards the sun, there is in each of us an impulse moving toward connection, health and aliveness. This organismic impulse is the fuel of the NARM approach.'

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